Because I AM A WOMAN 😢😢😢

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I AM A WOMAN!!! -

So what?
I get into an argument with a man, he slaps me, I feel the pain, yet they tell me I provoked him. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him.


I get into an argument with a man, I slap him, they tell me I have no respect, no home training. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him.
Because I am a woman, I don't have a right to be angry. So, the degree of my innocence is directly proportional to the degree of my silence in the face of oppression and brutality.....

Because I am a woman, my husband cheats on me, I am told to tolerate it to save my marriage. The barbaric and stupid excuse is that ''it is in their nature to cheat, I should slim down, dress better, cook better, pray harder and be more pleasant to him"

I cheat, and I am called a whore, I have committed an abomination, I have no right to look elsewhere for the love and emotional support I lack at home, I am an irresponsible mother.

So I am sent packing, from the home we both built, with all my earthly possessions stuffed into a tiny box on my head. I am henceforth forbidden from seeing my two older children, I'm lucky to be allowed to go with my little one still suckling on my left breast. Three years later, the little one is tagged a bastard. Now, my new name is "after-three", because I am a woman.

He is 28 and runs a company. He's tagged wonderful, hardworking, focused, career oriented, successful at a very young age.

I am 28 and I run a company " Hmmmm, she is not even married, unserious, can not order her priorities right, a hustler, loves money, let her go and get a husband oh"
And I wonder if being successful has anything to do with a person's gender.

Because I am a woman,
I am not allowed to have wits or be a prodigy, I cannot be financially buoyant, professionally successful or be treated with respect without a man beside me.

Then I am tagged a generous leg opener, "a runs girl". They never see the possibility that I actually had to go through ups and downs to get to where I am.
Because I am a woman.

A man looses his wife to death and remarries a year after, he did the right thing, he's being praised and congratulated for moving on, after all life is for the living.

A woman looses her husband to death and remarries after 4yrs, "ahhh! so early? Are u sure she wasn't sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband. She's a witch! " Because she's a woman.

Because I am a woman, this post will be considered controversial, and everyone will try to correct me.
But don't forget, that I am a woman and it does not make me less human!!!
Share to respect some woman.
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By Anonymous writer

INSPIRING WOMEN - Why Strong Women Threaten Weak Men

Many women have worked long and hard on themselves. If they are assertive and direct, it can be seen by “weak” men as aggressive, but what is really happening is that they are being clear about what they need and want. Strong women care. In fact, they care a lot for the people they are involved with. They have big hearts.

They know what they want and what they don’t want.
They have made a lot of mistakes but have learned from them. Although, they may feel shaky at times, they are not afraid to step into unknown territory. They’ll say upfront what they want, and some men don’t know how to respond when a woman is so direct.

They won’t take nonsense.
They want to be in relationships that honor them. They have a lot to give their partner, boss, colleague, etc., and expect the same. They realize that if they accept unacceptable behavior, they are partially to blame for untenable situations in their life.

They realize that no one can take their power away.
They take the time to look at themselves. They reflect on their strengths, as well as their weaknesses, and begin to get a sense of their power. They understand that sometimes it may feel easier to point the finger at someone else’s poor behavior, but in the end it won’t create change. They know what is acceptable and what is not, but always look at how they can grow and change. If they feel like someone is holding them back, they’ll cut ties with that person. Men who don’t feel as confident may find this to be intimidating.

Sources: workingwomen.com

Can Money Buy Happiness? A Harvard Professor Says OH YES

Can money buy happiness? According to the old adage: No.

But a Harvard Business School professor says yes. But how much happiness you can buy depends on how you spend your money.

"We're really underspending on the things that make us most happy," says Michael Norton, a Harvard Business School professor, who has researched the science of spending.

A Little Tale Of Love; From One FAT Woman To Another By Chiamaka

When a representative of Bella Curves reached out to me to write for their blog, I was pleasantly surprised & happy. It is not often you find a Nigerian blog that supports the plus size community, even in the few times fat (please give me leeway to use this word, I have come to embrace it completely) women are mentioned in mass media we are usually presented as jokes or sexless. 

A FAT GIRL'S GUIDE TO SUMMER: WEARING A SLEEVELESS DRESS

Written By Chiamaka

I see myself wear some of the things I do now & I marvel at how far I have come. Was not too long ago when my sister & I were going for a carnival & I wore a pair of shorts & a top but had then put on a jacket & maxi skirt over it. This was the summer of 2014. We had not ended up going for the carnival & I stared at myself in the mirror for the rest of the day. What was so wrong with me? Why could I not dress as I liked? Added to my worries was the fact that I suffered from spots on my arms & legs, which faded since I stopped worrying about & trying to fix them. Last year summer I was going to six flags with my school. I took the plunge & wore shorts.

I had never felt so free in my life. Naturally, I was a bit nervous at first but then I realised so many people had seen me already & there was nothing to be shy about. Since then, I've been showing my thighs, shoulders & breasts. I know a sleeveless dress might not seem very dramatic to many people but for me it would be truly revolutionary. I am wearing one out this summer & will be blogging about it. I have never shown my arms for many years, they are still very much my largest insecurity. Writing this is difficult because I do not want many of you delving into my inner thoughts, but it has to be done because I want to reach out to as many fat women out there. I want my story to be comforting & also encourage them. 

To all my fat sisters, It's summer time, and naturally it will be difficult for you to wear shorts, sleeveless tops or short dresses. It's choking to be in those thick clothes, but you are scared of being ridiculed. I want to encourage you to put on something you normally wouldn't. To be more confident, go out with friends that particular day. The familiar setting will surround you with more energy to keep going. It is important to have good energy around you, so surround yourself with people who are continuously encouraging you. Following plus size model on social media really helped me to be comfortable & confident in my skin. I know that it is very difficult but please try something out of the usual this summer. 

You will be so pleasantly surprised & more happier than you have ever been. It is difficult to take the plunge in new experiences, but it is helpful to take it little by little. A tiny amount of progress counts. Do not be hard on yourself if you fail, the important thing is to try & try again. I want to tell you that you are beautiful, you are here & never let anyone tell you that your body is less. You are worth just as much as anyone else in the world. It's extremely hard to appreciate yourself in a world where you have no representation except when you are the butt of stupid jokes, but we can do it. 

Have a great summer, keep slaying & stepping on those necks everywhere you go! I am counting on you. Please reach out to me if you ever want to talk or need help choosing an outfit you feel would look great on you. Tweet me gorgeous selfies whenever. I'll be looking forward to them. Love you guys, all of you. (Including the pick me's 🙄)

P.S: I apologize if you are not comfortable with the word "fat" yet. I do not mind it anymore, and this is why I use it in description of myself & other beautiful women like me.

Written By Chiamaka

#BellaCurvesLifestyle: Never Ask These 9 Questions on a First Date

Everyone wants to make a good impression on a first date. But sometimes asking the wrong questions gets in the way of those good intentions, sabotaging your date and ruining the possibility of seeing this person again.

Wana Udobang: Time to Check Out Naomi’s Story | on Room 313

Room 313 is an experimental series created by Wana Udobang about people who have experienced trauma undergoing therapy, telling their stories through vignettes.

Watch  Debby Aiyegbeni as she plays Naomi below

The One Thing You Should Never Do After a Breakup

by Annie Spratt

I love helping people get over breakups. It’s my thing.

There’s nothing like watching someone finally realize that a terrible breakup could be the best thing that ever happened to them. It might take a few weeks, a few months, or even a year to get to that place. (No shame, mine took a year!) But no matter how long it takes, the moment always feels just as good.

17 Reasons Why Goofy Couples Have The Strongest Relationships

1. They strike a great balance between taking each other seriously and not taking anything else too seriously.

2. They’re not afraid to have (healthy) arguments, because they know that when everything’s been resolved, it’s never long before someone cracks a joke that immediately dissolves the tension.

Ghanaian Media Personality Peace Hyde covers Nu People Magazine’s May 2016 Issue

Peace Hyde, Award winning TV personality, Forbes Africa Correspondent and founder of leading education foundation Aim Higher Africa, is the cover star of the May/ June edition of Nu People Magazine, a UK premier digital bi-monthly lifestyle magazine.

25 Times Latasha Ngwube Showed Us She Is Unapologetic-ally Curvy and Fashionable.

Latasha Ngwube, fondly called Latasha Lagos is a unique trailblazer, any fashion conscious human can attest to that. Her wardrobe is full of rebellious choices. She really knows how to make an amazing piece look even better. The ways she wear her curves screams Evolutionary not revolutionary and We like it. Latasha is out to change the way we see plus-size fashion.

Whether she is going on a trip, or for a wedding; no matter the occasion, she always gets her looks together, styled to perfection.

10 WAYS TO BREAK UP WITH EMOTIONAL EATING.

by Romana Shah

Most times we are unaware when we are in the state of emotional eating, from moments when we are sad, angry or even happy we find ourselves over indulging. However, although bad sometimes it is allowed but when it has become a constant cycle then we need to check ourselves.

3 Important Reasons Women Cheat On Their Men. All 3 arrows point to men!​

So Cosmopolitan_Ng listed 3 possible reasons why men cheat. And all 3 arrows point to me. 

Unlike men, women in happy relationships hardly cheat. Women are naturally monotonous. Once they find happiness and fulfillment in one man, they stick with him. However, this in no way makes them saints - what men can do, women can do better(if pushed beyond limits)! Here are the three main reasons why women cheat: 

Oprah Winfrey Celebrates Weight Loss on O, the Oprah Magazine Cover With 9 "Real" Women

Oprah Winfrey is looking better than ever and keeping it real.

The 62-year-old showcases a slimmer figure on the cover of her O, the Oprah Magazine's April 2016 issue after losing at least 26 pounds since becoming a Weight Watchers spokesmodel and part owner last year.

ALISSA of STYLISH CURVES shares "My Black Is Beautiful And Not Unconventional"

"Ever since I was a teenager I’ve always been told you’re pretty to be dark skinned. At the time, I couldn’t place my finger on why I never thought that was a compliment. As I got older, I realized that being told I was pretty to be dark skinned meant that my beauty was unconventional.

Uzoma Orimalade: How To Make Super Indulgent Noodles

"Instant noodles have a pretty bad reputation in food circles. This recipe takes instant noodles from college food to sexy food using a wok and some interesting ingredients"  Uzoma Orimalade

How the streets of Accra changed my life – Forbes Africa correspondent, Peace Hyde Shares [VIDEO]

In a recent interview with Guardian Woman/Leading Ladies Africa, Forbes Africa correspondent Peace Hyde shares her amazing story relocating from London to the moment on the streets of Accra that influenced the launch of Award winning not-for-profit organization Aim Higher Africa.

Glory Edozien : 7 Ways to Create Personal Joy (Watch)

By Glory Edozien: 

A lot of us think the only times we can be joyful is when something good happens to us- our prayers get answered or a reason to celebrate arrives. While these situations contribute to us being joyful, it certainly isn’t the full picture.

10 Facts Every Woman Should Know

1. Everyone has rolls when they bend over.

2. When someone tells you that you're beautiful, believe them. They aren't lying.

Highlights of Being a Girl

#1 Shoe Heaven

Every new outfit needs a new pair of shoes. Whether it be some cute flats or some killer heels, we all needs shoes and lots of them! No girl can ever say she has enough shoes.